Talk:Fear of intimacy

Informative but Not[edit]

This is an interesting topic but at the same time you only talk aboout or explain the fear of intimacy in women in general but not men. Would this be a gender specific topic where one gender responds differently to the same circumstances? Miss vampire d (talk) 23:08, 30 September 2011 (UTC)[reply]

Needs expansion and redefinition[edit]

this is not a definition. It is a disorder, or a symptom. I have a few topics I would like to read about in this article which I do not know enough about to write, but which I think should be included. I want to know where fear of intimacy comes from: how it acts as a core issue or a defense mechanism: and how it is cured. If their is no magic pill, I would like a discussion on various methods of treatment. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 66.117.138.213 (talk) 21:53, 11 February 2012 (UTC)[reply]

Weird prose in lead[edit]

"Fear of intimacy is the expression of existential views in that to love and to be loved makes life seem precious and death, more inevitable."

Huh? Kaldari (talk) 00:11, 2 December 2012 (UTC)[reply]

Gender[edit]

so it's perfectly fine to write an entire article about one gender, then create special sections dedicated to the same damn gender the article was written for? so you're only pandering to women wikipedia? showing your misandristic true colors yet again I see... — Preceding unsigned comment added by Bumblebritches57 (talk • contribs) 07:30, 17 April 2014 (UTC)[reply]

Bit hard to read[edit]

Came here as a non-psychologist to read up on this topic, but can't get past the "symptoms":

People with this fear are anxious about or afraid of intimate relationships. They believe that they do not deserve love or support from others.[3] This bit is okay...

Fear of intimacy has three defining features: content which represents the ability to communicate personal information, "content"? I'm sorry, what? Are we talking about social media content? The content of a conversation? It's not clear.

emotional valence which refers to the feelings about personal information exchanged, Okay, what the hell is valence? Would someone without a degree in psychology know what this is? Who is this page for? Psychologists or laypeople? As for this semi-sentence, it seems to say something about feelings about personal information exchanged. What would be an easier-to-read way to write this?

and vulnerability signifying their regard for the person they are intimate with.[1] Huh... So they're vulnerable, and that signifies that they regard the person they are intimate with... Highly? Not very well?

Bartholomew and Horowitz go further and determine four different adult attachment types: "(1) Secure individuals have a sense of worthiness or lovability and are comfortable with intimacy and autonomy; (2) preoccupied persons lack this sense of self-worthiness yet view others positively and seek their love and acceptance; (3) fearful people lack a sense of lovability and are avoidant of others in anticipation of rejection; (4) dismissing persons feel worthy of love yet detach from others whom they generally regard as untrustworthy".[4]

This bit is okay but how does it relate directly to the previous information? It just kind of hangs here with no discernible purpose. Are you trying to say that certain attachment types *cause* a fear of intimacy? Maybe say that then. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 139.216.136.77 (talk) 23:26, 17 July 2018 (UTC)[reply]

Permission[edit]

How can we get permission to use this scale? 121.46.65.205 (talk) 06:38, 15 January 2022 (UTC)[reply]